Erotic lactation

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Milena Velba drinks her own milk
Penny Porsche is capable of induced lactation
Alicia Loren lactating into a cup
Olga Polansky milking into a man’s mouth

Erotic lactation means breastfeeding of an adult partner or re-lactation for primarily erotic or sensual reasons. Depending on the context other terms are used, such as adult suckling, adult nursing, adult breastfeeding, Adult Nursing Relationship (ANR), or nursing couple(s). The scientific-sounding terms Milk fetishism or Lactophilia as well as paraphilia (in this context) are incorrect according to the definitions of ICD-10 and DSM-IV. In scientific terminology these would be disorders the diagnoses of which should be based on precise criteria. One (but not the only one) of these criteria is that the person is suffering from such a disorder, which is definitely not true for Erotic Lactation. Therefore Milk fetishism or Lactophilia should also be avoided in colloquial speech.


Breasts and especially nipples are highly erogenous zones (both for men and women). One hypothesis assumes that during evolution those women prevailed who were motivated by physical pleasure to nurse their babies in the best possible way. The same holds true for the lips, which are erogenous zones too, and pleasure probably brought women to "kiss feeding", in which mothers chew food before passing it on to the baby.[1]

Because female breasts and nipples are normally an important part of sexual activities and perception (at least in western/northern culture), it is not surprising that couples may proceed from intensive kissing of the nipples to actually breastfeeding the partner. In lesbian partnerships mutual breastfeeding is an already familiar expression of affection and tenderness for some time.[2]

In its Sunday issue of March 13, 2005, the London daily The Times gave a report on a scientific survey (of 1.690 British men) revealing that in 25 to 33% of all couples the male partner had suckled on their wife's breasts. Regularly the men gave a genuine emotional need as their motive.[3]

Beyond that there exist hardly any reports or investigations. Nevertheless, from European Middle Ages a multitude of subliminally erotic visionary experiences of saints have been passed on in which breastfeeding plays a major role. One prominent example is the Lactatio of Saint Bernard of Clairvaux[4]. But generally speaking one must assume this to be a rather strong taboo, and it can be concluded that a man suckling on a female breast is in contradiction to well established images of masculinity.

Unintended milk flow (Galactorrhea) is often caused by nipple stimulation and it is possible to reach normal milk production exclusively by suckling on the breast.

Varieties of erotic lactation

  • Lactation games: "Mainstream erotic lactation". Any kind of sexual activity which includes the woman's milk. Very widespread in the time after child birth because many woman experience a let-down reflex while sexually aroused.[5]
  • Adult Nursing Relationship (ANR): Suckling from the female breast as an expression of close intimacy and mutual tenderness. The relationship of both partners is based on equality and mutuality. Adult Nursing Relationships depend on a stable and long term relationship of the couple, otherwise it is nearly impossible to maintain a steady milk flow. On the other hand it is frequently reported that breastfeeding has a strong stabilizing effect on the partnership.[6] The breastfeeding woman may experience orgasms or a pleasurable let-down reflex, but that need not be necessarily so, as the most significant reason to enter into an ANR is the intense bonding and intimacy experienced (and frequently reported) by nursing couples.
  • Pumping: Many women experience sensual pleasure from pumping milk from their breasts with a milk pump or expressing milk manually, either with or without a partner. In addition to the sensual pleasure they report feeling more feminine while producing milk. Therefore some women continue with lactation after weaning a baby for emotional or sensual reasons.
  • There exist also three BDSM varieties of erotic lactation:
  1. Infantilism: The male partner assumes the role of a baby (being breastfed by the mother) in sexual role play. Breastfeeding might play a secondary role in this type of relationship, and being pampered by "mommy", wearing diapers or a hidden incestuous character can predominate in this kind of relationship.
  2. Breastfeeding as a reward (or surrogate pleasure): Breastfeeding of the submissive partner can serve as a reward for his/her submission, for example as a part of a cuckold relationship. Breastfeeding might replace "normal" sexual intercourse, which the cuckold partner is denied.
  3. Milking: Milking of the submissive woman, or commanding her to give milk for her dominant (male or female) partner.[7]
  • Excessive Breastfeeding of a Child: In order to give a comprehensive overview it should be mentioned that "excessive breastfeeding" for reasons of sensual pleasure in the mother might occur. This is not a topic of this article and it is highly unclear whether a woman can harm her child directly by excessive breastfeeding.[8]

Lactation, re-lactation and induced lactation

Erotic Lactation between partners or an Adult Nursing Relationship (ANR) may develop from natural breastfeeding of a baby. During the lactation period the male partner starts to suckle on the female breast, and continues after the baby is weaned off. Milk production is continually stimulated and the milk flow continues.

However, milk production can be "artificially" and intentionally induced in the absence of any pregnancy in the woman. This is called Induced lactation, while a woman who has lactated before and re-starts is said to relactate. This can be done by regularly sucking on the nipples (several times a day), massaging/squeezing the female breasts or with additional help from temporary use of milk-inducing drugs, such as the Dopamine antagonist Domperidone [9] [10]. In principle - with considerable patience and perseverance - it is possible to induce lactation by sucking on the nipples alone. Herbs will not induce lactation- they will only increase production once it is established. It is not necessary that the woman have ever been pregnant, and she can be well in her post-menopausal period. Once established, lactation adjusts to demand. As long as there is regular breast stimulation, lactation is possible. Once lactation is established, herbs may be used to increase production. These include Fenugreek (the most popular), blessed thistle, and red raspberry leaf. A reported side effect when taking fenugreek includes maple smelling body fluids. It is also reported that stickiness of the breast milk can occur.

See also



  1. The ethologist Irenäus Eibl-Eibesfeldt documented several cultures with "kiss feeding" practice and assumes an evolution from caring for nutrition to erogenous zone.
  2. Institute for Sexual Research, Vienna 1928–1932: Universallexikon der Sittengeschichte und Sexualwissenschaft (Universal encyclopedia of moral history and sexual science)
  3. Rogers, Lois: Earth dads give breast milk a try, The Sunday Times, March 13, 2005. Copy available online
  4. Panizza, Oskar <1853-1921>: Die Wallfahrt nach Andechs. -- 1894.
  5. Rogers, Lois: Earth dads give breast milk a try, The Sunday Times, March 13, 2005. Copy available online
  6. Buttenstedt, Carl: The "Marriage of happiness": the revelation of woman: A study in nature
  7. Currently there is no known detailed printed literature about erotic milk pumping or BDSM with Erotic lactation. For research look into BDSM and Erotic lactation online groups and have a look into the existing pornographic material.
  8. UK TV station Channel 4 on Feb. 1, 2006: "Extraordinary Breastfeeding" (don't confuse "extraordinary" with "extensive"!). Very interesting and widely discussed documentation with mothers who breastfeed 7 and 9 years old girls.
  9. The Academy Of Breastfeeding Medicine: ABM Protocol #9: Use of galactogogues in initiating or augmenting maternal milk supply. Copy available as PDF
  10. da Silva, Orlando P. and Knoppert, David C.: Health and drug alerts: Domperidone for lactating women, Canadian Medical Association Newsletter SEPT. 28, 2004. Copy available as PDF

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